DiscoverFragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow Boundaries Create Secure Attachment in Romantic Relationships | Episode 333
How Boundaries Create Secure Attachment in Romantic Relationships | Episode 333

How Boundaries Create Secure Attachment in Romantic Relationships | Episode 333

Update: 2026-01-05
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In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m exploring attachment from a different angle and sharing how boundaries and recovery can actually create secure attachment, even if you didn’t grow up with it.

Instead of focusing on attachment labels, we look at how internal safety, self-trust, and boundaries change the way we show up in romantic relationships.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

  • The difference between anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment and how they often show up in adult relationships
  • How self-abandonment fuels insecure attachment patterns like chasing, distancing, and resentment
  • Why boundaries aren’t about pushing people away, but about staying connected to yourself
  • How boundary work creates internal safety and builds self-trust over time
  • Why secure attachment can be developed in adulthood through recovery and consistent boundary practice

Secure attachment isn’t something you either got in childhood or missed forever. When you stop abandoning yourself, you stop building abandonment into your relationships. Boundaries help you stay present, grounded, and connected to who you are, so relationships stop feeling like life or death and start feeling safe.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive practical tools for building emotional safety, healthier relationships, and a more whole life.

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How Boundaries Create Secure Attachment in Romantic Relationships | Episode 333

How Boundaries Create Secure Attachment in Romantic Relationships | Episode 333

Barb Nangle